Showing posts with label Egalitarian. Complementarian. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Egalitarian. Complementarian. Show all posts

Woman's Rights Men

Did you know that most abolitionists were also advocates for equality of the sexes?

Theodore Weld, who trained abolition activists and eventually married Sarah Grimke, was legendary for his courage. Despite criticism, he welcomed women into the abolition movement and insisted on treating them as autonomous equals.

In fact, the abolition movement is what kicked off the American Woman's Rights Movement. Weld trained women alongside men and treated them as self-governing equals in every way.

Weld and Grimke's egalitarian marriage lasted happily for over four decades.

Another well-known abolitionist was Frederick Douglas, who declared that he was proud to be denominated as a woman's rights man.


Woman this is WAR! Gender, Slavery & the Evangelical Caste System: Andersen, Jocelyn: 9780979429323: Amazon.com: Books

Is Governance by women oppressive and dangerous?

Does our Creator use women and children as curses and threats like early Hebrew rabbi's did...and Bible translators (of all nationalities) still do. 

For example, Isaiah 3:12 is consistently translated as: As for my people children are their oppressors and women rule over them. But translators routinely point out the alternate translation of:  "As for my people abusers are their oppressors and exacters (tax collectors) rule over them."

Comments: Isaiah 3:12 “I think we find another case of prejudiced translation in Isaiah 3:12. The word translated “children” in this verse in Isaiah, is a plural masculine participle of the verb “to glean,” “abuse,” “practice.” It is translated “glean” in Leviticus 19:10, Deuteronomy 24:21, Judges 20:45, and Jeremiah 6:9.

The word has no translation such as “children” anywhere else in the Bible, and it occurs 21 times. Another word altogether is used for “children,” and “child,” in verses 4 and 5 of this same chapter; the sense [in verse 12] seems to have been fixed by the supposed context, to correspond with “women.”

As to the word translated “women:” [The] two words [women and exacters], without the rabbinical vowel points, are exactly alike. One is pronounced nosh-im and the other na-shim. In appearance the only difference is a slight mark under the first letter of the Hebrew word na-shim. The first word means “exactors;” the one with a vowel mark under the initial letter means “women.”

The entire decision, therefore, as to whether the word means one or the other depends upon OPTION.

Those who pointed the word, evidently thought the nation could sink no lower than to pass under women rulers, and then translated the word “children” to match it. Commentators frequently call attention to the alternate reading."  (all emphasis mine) –100 Bible Studies on Woman’s Place in the Divine Economy by Katharine C. Bushnell (1856-1946)

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Senior Pastor at Church: The Little Woman at Home

I was raised in the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC), so I understand the restrictions against women within that denomination. In my mid-twenties, I began attending a denomination that had no problem with women as church leaders and pastors. So, I enjoyed the freedom of growing in my gifts and callings within a local church setting.

But it wasn't without its frustrations...read more HERE

No Gender-based Hierarchy in Marriage, Church, or Society...and Here's Why

There is a connection between gender-based hierarchy among humans and hierarchy within the Godhead. The Bible says, "Out of the mouths of two or three witnesses, let every word be established."

The number of scriptural witnesses that Jesus is the Almighty is a whole lot more than just two or three. That means the number of scriptural witnesses to biblical equality/autonomy of the sexes is a whole lot more than just two or three. 

Why do I say that? Let me explain... Read more...

Complementarian Manners


"Jesus had a respectful theological conversation with the Samaritan woman at the well."

When I read this in author Elaine Kelly's newsletter, it brought to mind the time I visited a local congregation and was unexpectedly introduced to an author whose work I admired. I was unaware that he was a member of a fundamentalist Baptist denomination where men did not engage with women as equals. I didn't realize that for him [or any other fundamentalist Baptist male] theological or any other type of conversation with women on an equal basis was out of the question. I really had no idea.

This author never wrote about gender roles, so I was clueless as to where he stood on the issue. Regardless, I never expected to see him that day, much less be introduced to him. I was thrilled to meet him and told him so.

He shook my hand and smiled broadly as I commented on how much I appreciated his work. And then I mentioned that I had also written a book on the same subject...and his eyes glazed over.

Suddenly, he wasn't looking at me. He was staring, quite literally, straight through me. I had suddenly become invisible. He didn't walk away. He didn't move but continued standing square in front of me, completely ignoring me.

I wasn't there anymore.

I'm sure the desired effect was to make me feel uncomfortable or worse. What an incredibly rude tactic! But it worked. I had no reason to feel ashamed, foolish, and uncomfortable. Yet I did.

That was not the first time that had happened to me, nor would it be the last. I've noticed that complementarian [especially "hard-comp"] men tend to do that. It's possible the reaction is a spiritual thing (an oppression brought on by the sin of complementarianism), or it could be intentional rudeness designed to keep woman "in her place." Whatever it is, from my experience it is widespread. It is rude and disrespectful, plain and simple.

Loving our neighbor as ourselves is the second greatest commandment in the entire Bible. Jesus said so. And treating women as if they are invisible, unimportant, and less than men is...well, it is not love. According to Jesus, it is positively un-Christian.

If the majority of complementarian men refuse to learn theology from a woman, they should at least learn better manners from the Captain of Our Faith, who had no problem discussing theology with a woman in an intelligent and respectful manner.

Why women were exempted from attending the mandatory Feasts in Jerusalem

  


Luke 2:1-7 [emphasis on verse :7], gives a perfect illustration as to why women were exempted from the requirement for all Hebrew males to attend the three mandatory Feasts of the LORD in Jerusalem each year--regardless of how far away they lived.

   In Luke chapter two, we read that Caesar Augustus commanded every person [regardless of sex or age] in all the world [meaning those under his jurisdiction, i.e., the Roman Empire] to be taxed. Because of this command, at nine-months pregnant, the mother of Jesus was required to make an arduous journey to the town of her birth and deliver her baby, the Messiah, the Savior of the world, in an unsanitary stable, surrounded by livestock. 
   In the TORAH, we read that only Hebrew males are commanded to attend three of the seven annual Feasts of the Lord. The male-only requisite had nothing to do with male superiority but rather with protection of mothers, newborns, infants, toddlers, and children. 
   At feast-time in Israel, at any given time, how many expectant or newly-delivered mothers would have been in the midst of or on the verge of delivery or going through required purification periods after giving birth? How many mothers would have been caring for newborns, sick infants or children?
   Can anyone imagine the mother and infant mortality rate if these women had been required to make a seven-day [not counting travel-time] thrice-yearly pilgrimage to Jerusalem?
   Yahweh is more merciful to his people than any earthly government. And fallen human nature tends to turn the kindness and mercies of God into excuses to build sinful and harmful hierarchies.  
   In the beginning Elohim created male and female and commanded his entire human creation to dominate the earth (manage the earth's resources) together. There was never a command to dominate one another. The unscriptural paradigm of male domination of God's female creation is entirely a result of sin

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Jesus -Vs-Translator Bias

Jesus, friend of women, did not miss an opportunity to elevate the status of women, while at the same time illustrating the fallacy of gender-based-role-religion. 

In Matthew 16:15-18 and Matthew 7:24, using as examples Peter, the Ek-klesia (the Out-Called Body of Christ), and obedience to the Written and Revealed WORD OF GOD, he obliterates all notions the apostles may have harbored of male headship.

In Matthew 16:15-18, Jesus asked his disciples, "...whom say you that I am And Simon Peter answered and said you are the Christ the Son of The Living God And answering Jesus said Blessed are you Simon son [of] Jona for flesh and blood has not revealed this to you but my Father which is in Heaven And I say also to you That you are Petros [1]  but upon this "THE" Petra [2] I shall build [my home] [3] the Ek-klesia and the gates of hades shall not prevail against it (see Matthew 7:24).

[1] Jesus called Peter a petros (Strong's G4074), which is the same as G4075, meaning a proper masculine noun for a piece of a stone, a piece of a rock, or a man's name.

[2] Jesus called his Ek-klesia, "THE" Petra [Strong’s G4073]. The "THE" is present in the Greek but inexplicably left untranslated by scholars. Petra is a feminine noun meaning a massive living rock: th πέτρα THE pétra. 

According to James Strong, pétra is the feminine counterpart of the masculine name petros. Strong claims that petra [4073], the massive living stone, is the same as petros [G4074 and G4075] a piece of rock. But this is not true, and he had to know this.

The feminine noun Petra (G4073-the massive living stone upon which the Body of Christ is built) is not the feminine counterpart of the masculine noun petros (G4074-the piece of rock). James Strong allowed his prejudice in favor of gender-role-religion to influence many of his definitions, and this is one of them.

Simon's name, petros [G4074], means a little stone—a piece of a rock. It is the same word as petros [G4075], which also means a little stone—a piece of a rock. The two words, G4074 and G4075 are one and the same word. They are identical...separated only by the whim of James Strong. 

Strong does this more than once. He does it with the word 'āḏām (pronounced, in Hebrew, as audawm). 'āḏām is the name God bestowed on all mortals at the time of their creation, "...male and female created he them and called their name 'āḏām (Genesis 5:2)." 

Petros and 'āḏām are just two examples of the same Greek word being given two different Strong's reference numbers when one would have served better.

James Strong erroneously defined the word petra (G4073) as the female counterpart of the word petros [G4074 and G4075]. Strong and other scholars know full well this is not the case. In Matthew 7:24, Jesus used the feminine petra (G4073)], when commanding believers to build their homes on THE Petra [on "THE" Rock] instead of building on sand.

Using gender specific words within the context of Matthew 16:18 and Matthew 7:24, Jesus illustrates the difference between the masculine petros [a piece of a stone] and the feminine "THE" Petra ["THE" massive living rock]. 

In their fierce struggle in defense of gender-role-religion, traditional scholars wrestle with the feminine word petra being preeminent over [and much stronger than] the masculine word petros. Using both the Body of Christ (the Ek-klesia) and the man, Peter, Jesus' illustration obliterates the fallacy of gender-based-male-headship-role-religion.

The MASSIVE living--feminine--petra is much stronger than, and has preeminence over, the smaller pieces of the rock, the [male] petros

This writer is not attempting to assert gender authority here, just making a point.  

[3] The phrase Jesus used “I shall build” comes from the Greek compound word, oiko-domEsO/oiko-domeō, which means homebuilder in the physical, spiritual, and emotional senses. 

When reading these words, the English word, "domestic," as in "home" comes to mind. 

The English word, domestic, descends directly from the Latin word domesticus but is very similar (in both sound and meaning) to the Greek words domeso or domeō. Latin was the original language of the ancient Romans. They adopted Greek culture and language later, so it would be ludicrous to claim there is no linguistic connection between words that come from cultures that blended and used words so similar as domestic, domeso, domeo, and domesticus.

In the Ek-klesia, Jesus is building a domestic home for himself.  

The Greek word he used, oiko, means “house or home.” The domeo/domeso part means to [physically and domestically] build houses or homes by building the dwelling itself and by edifying and building up those who live within the dwelling. 

The Ek-klesia is the home that Christ is domestically building for himself. In my Father's House are many mansions. The building materials he uses are love and the living stones of each believer, who he instructs to build their homes upon the massive, living, and feminine...petra.

The strong, preeminent, and feminine petra is the revealed WORD OF GOD –Matthew 7:24 and 16:18. 

Traditional-role-religionists deliberately obscure [where they can] the meanings of biblical words that expose the unscriptural paradigm of male headship.

The Bible is a treasure-trove of eye-opening subtleties and sub-text, if we will but make the effort to search them out.

If God intended his male creation to be preeminent over his female creation, then, despite the androcentricity of the Greek language, why did Jesus choose gender-specific language favoring the feminine in that particular discourse with Peter?

Why did our Creator allow the language itself to subordinate the masculine little piece of a rock [petros] to the massive rock, the living and preeminent [but God forbid--feminine],  petra?

Women Keep Silent in Church!

 


Some scholars believe verses :34-35 of 1 Corinthians chapter fourteen to be interpolations (forgeries)...and for good reason. 

This is certainly within the realm of possibility as Paul himself admitted that letters “as from him” were being forged and sent to leaders of the early Christian groups (see 2 Thessalonians 2:2)It is difficult to make sense of two verses that contradict the tone and message of, not just Paul's letter to the Believers at Corinth but, the entire body of the scriptures as well. 

Why would Paul command women to keep silence among the Out-Called, when earlier in the same letter he wrote that “every one of you” may prophesy? Not to mention he knew the scriptures that said God's daughters would prophesy as well as his sons. 

In 1 Corinthians chapter eleven, Paul wrote the protocol for women in praying/preaching/prophesying publicly, when the Out-Called came together. This is likely the reason for the interpolation in chapter fourteen. 

To instruct women in public-speaking protocol only to then restrict them to absolute silence among fellow believers is a ridiculous contradiction...and completely out of character for a man who, throughout his ministry, endorsed and honored women as leaders. 

Another, not insignificant, reason to consider that verses 34-35 might be interpolations (forged inserts) is the break in continuity. 1 Corinthians chapter 14 deals with the subject of prophesying and speaking in tongues from start to finish. The only exceptions being the jarring diatribe against women in verses 34-35, without which the entire chapter would read seamlessly on the topics of prophesying and speaking in tongues:

29: Let the prophets speak two or three and let the others judge 30: If anything be revealed to another that sits by let the first hold their peace 31: For you may all prophesy [2] one by one that all may learn and all may be comforted 32: For the spirits of the prophets are subject to the prophets 33: Indeed God is not the author of confusion but of peace as in all churches of the saints

34: Let your women keep silence among the Out-Called for it is not permitted to them to speak but they are commanded to be under obedience as also says the law 35: And if they will learn anything let them ask their husbands at home for it is a shame for women to speak among the Out-Called

36: What came the word of God out from you or came it to you only 37: If any are deemed as prophets or spiritual let them acknowledge that the things that I write to you are the commandments of the Lord 38: But if any be ignorant [let them] be ignorant 39: Wherefore brethren covet to prophesy and forbid not to speak with tongues 40: Let all things be done decently and in order.

Two Points

  • There is no law that says women must be under obedience
  • There is no scriptural precedent that says it is a shame for women to speak in public 



[2] 1 Corinthians 14:31 reveals at least three things. 1.) Every member of the Body of Christ has liberty to speak publicly to other members of the body of Christ without asking permission from hierarchical group leadership. 2.) Women are not excluded from publicly and authoritatively preaching and teaching to other members of the Ekklesia (Body of Christ) 3.) Women are not excluded from speaking publicly to men, and men are not forbidden to learn from women. 

Verses 34-34 blatantly contradict verse 31 (along with myriads of other verses and passages). Verse 31 is just one of many scriptures that proves complementarian male headship is an unscriptural paradigm that exalts itself against the knowledge of God...and that verses 34-35 must be forgeries.

If the topic of God and Women interests you, join the conversation HERE.

Review of “The Sword” by Elaine Ricker Kelly


 The Sword is a delightful and unifying resource for education and biblical conversation between egalitarian and complementarian Christians. Kudos to Elaine Ricker Kelly for her wonderful concept!

It was a quick and inspiring read and is perfect for anyone interested in cutting away barriers and building one another up in conversation and even friendly debate about women's roles.

The book includes Elaine Kelly's system of 104 flashcards, which provide a simple and entertaining guide in directing the egalitarian/complementarian conversation. The flashcards address opposition without endorsing it. These thought-provoking cards work just as well with individuals as with groups.

CAVEAT: They are excellent for different age groups and work just as well in adult gatherings as with teens or preteens.

Kelly stated her desire was to assist readers in working out their own views about the role of women in the home, church, and society. I believe her simple and engaging work will do just that. She absolutely succeeded in her goal of creating flashcards as a fun way to engage in healthy debate on what the Bible says about women’s roles in the home, church, and society. She did a brilliant job of creating an inspiring and empowering resource that either complementarians or egalitarians can comfortably use in their discussions.

I loved it and whole-heartedly recommend it.

The Sword: A fun way to engage in healthy debate on what the Bible says about a woman’s role: Kelly, Elaine Ricker: 9781738823307: Amazon.com: Books


 Elaine R Kelly writes inspirating and empowering fiction and non-fiction. She blogs on biblical equality, biblical interpretation, church history, women leaders, and the Christian feminist movement. 

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Quick Link Resource Guide for Advocates of Biblical Equality of the Sexes


 God is moving among his young people and raising up advocates for biblical equality of the sexes. 

Many of us who have been advocating for biblical equality of the sexes, are getting up in age. I am approaching my 67th birthday and have been advocating for almost 2 decades. 

I started writing, Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence, in 2005, and the Lord immediately began dealing with me about writing, Woman this is WAR! Gender Slavery and the Evangelical Caste System. He made it clear that if I only ran with the message of preventing domestic violence, without addressing the root cause, "other side of the coin" so to speak, which is complementarianism/male headship, that I would be running only half-dressed.

I am thrilled to see God raising up a veritable army of young advocates. This is a growing movement among young Christians. For that reason, in addition to my books, I put together a "Quick Link Resource Guide for Advocates of Biblical Equality," which consists of links to over 100 of my articles on the topic, all conveniently located on one webpage for quick reference.

I am 100% committed to supporting advocates of any age. 

Please share the link https://lnkd.in/ek5wtsq9


Jesus Challenges "Male Scribes Only" Policy

 Jesus Friend of Women: Challenges "Male Scribes Only" Policy

Matthew 13:52 ...all scribes instructed in the Kingdom of Heaven are similar to those oikodespotēs  [home rulers] who bring forth out of their treasures new and old


[1] In comparing scribes to householders [oikodespotēs], using a word translated from a Greek noun that literally means “home ruler” (oiko=home & despotēs=ruler), Jesus challenged the idea that only men could be trained as scribes. 

The term, oikodespotēs, is not limited to males only. In 1 Timothy 5:14, The word oikodespoteō (the same word as oikodespotēs, only in verb form) is used of women, where they are commanded to be “home rulers.” Though the word oikodespotēs is classified as a masculine noun, usage shows it to be a neuter noun.  


 Woman this is WAR! Gender Slavery and the Evangelical Castes System, examines male-centered Bible translation, commentary, and discriminatory mis-definition of biblical words, all of which adversely affect understanding of the scriptures, relations between women and men, happiness of men and women, and hinders the work of the gospel.

Southern Baptist Churches are Rejecting Male Leadership



Mike Law, a pastor in Arlington, Virginia, is concerned the complementarian paradigm of female submission to male headship is in jeopardy. So much so, he sent an open letter/petition (with 1,100 signatures to date) to The Southern Baptist Convention's (SBC) Executive Committee requesting the Southern Baptist Constitution be amended to read that women may not be appointed as pastors of any kind. He even recommended that titles such as Women's Pastor and Children's Pastor be denied to women. 

These guys are running scared

As they should be. Complementarianism, the doctrine of female submission to male leadership in the church and home is unscriptural, and nothing less than religious extremism that endangers the spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical welfare of women and children. 

Pastor and author, John Piper, says the practice of male headship should even extend into the secular workplace. He shames Christian men by saying that true biblical men could not tolerate subordinate positions to women. But if they will not or cannot change jobs, Piper offers advice on how men can keep the upper hand in such situations by perverting common courtesies. I write about this in my book.

In his open letter/petition, Law wrote that five SBC churches within a five-mile radius of his congregation had appointed women as pastors of various kinds, including Sr. Pastor. That means five out of six churches within his radius, are either egalitarian or possibly angling in that direction. And that has Law, along with at least 1,100 other SBC pastors terrified that God's created design of equality of the sexes and gender-autonomy might actually become the unofficial norm in Southern Baptist churches...which would eventually lead to an official change in doctrine/policy.

Law stated that he objects to women holding titles such as Co-Pastor, Worship Pastor, Discipleship Pastor, Women's Pastor, Children's Pastor, etc., as he considers it trading in the "Office of Pastor." He wrote that "Ushering women into the Pastoral Office in Southern Baptist Churches unsettles our Convention's unity."

The Convention's unity certainly needs to be unsettled, just as in the days when the Southern Baptists broke away from the Northern Baptists for the singular purpose of preserving chattel slavery in the south. The SBC was formed for that reason and that reason alone and preached from every pulpit that slavery was God's design. In the slaveholding south, the fight to protect that evil institution was called a "Glorious Cause." 

The female submission/male headship movement, headquartered with the SBC [and disseminated from there to almost every other denomination], calls female submission, "God's Glorious Design." Sound familiar? They even use the same language as their slave-holding predecessors. And as the SBC finally issued a public denouncement of and apology for their support of chattel slavery, it is time for them to denounce and apologize for the gender-based Christian Caste System enforced within their churches and homes and promoted in their Bible colleges and seminaries. 

Whether they will ever do that is doubtful. It is more likely another split will occur; it appears that many SBC churches are passively resisting, quietly disregarding their bigoted leaders, and appointing women to leadership positions anyway. And that's a good thing. 

If the topic of God and Women interests you, join the conversation HERE.

Hypotasso also means arrayed "With" or "BESIDE"

 Hypotasso: Scholars Omit Two Crucial Definitions of the Word


 

 Two definitions of the Greek word "hypotassō," almost always translated as "submit" in the New Testament, would bring unity and healing to the Body of Christ by shedding the light of truth on a contentious and divisive subject... if they were included in Christian study resources
 
But these definitions though clearly seen within the context of scripture, are conspicuously absent from the scholarly record. 
 
   Hiearchical-English-translation-theology owns the field when it comes to the Greek word "hypo"--G5259 [pronounced hupo], from which the compound words hypotassō [Koine TR as seen in Strong's] and hupotassetai [as seen in Scrivner TR] are derived.  
   Both words are essentially the same and defined as arrayed "under" [hypo] by James Strong [G5293]. 
   Context reveals that "hypo"--G5259, can also mean over [2 Cor 2:11], or beside [Hebrews 1:3 ...and in Koine manuscripts, 2 Peter 2:5]. but it appears that Bible scholars and commentators do not want Christian laypeople to know this.
   The hierarchical applecart would certainly be upset if lay-Christians understood that the New Testament does not teach political or military-like hierarchy within the Body of Christ.
   James Strong, created an extraordinary work with his exhaustive concordance, but also exhibited extraordinary bias in some of his definitions, G5259-hypo being just one example. 
   Though we appreciate and use his work, we do this understanding his human frailties and biases. Strong's concordance erroneously perpetuates the unscriptural "clergy-over-laity" paradigm that, in Revelation 2:6, God says he hates. And one glaring example of this is his neglect to include the other two scriptural meanings of the word hypo-G5259, and this despite the fact he lists the scripture passages in which they are found. So we know he was aware of them.
   In this, whether intentional or not, James Strong has done a great dis-service to Bible scholars, students, and all Christians who depend heavily on his work for biblical understanding.

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Do Single People Realize How Difficult Marriage Is?


 Do single people realize how difficult marriage is? 

This question is asked by complementarians who often paint a truly dismal picture of marriage, without ever once pointing to the root cause of many failed Christian marriages, which is the complementarian theology of female submission to male headship.

Complementarian doctrine and not lack of effort is the root cause of much unhappiness in Christian marriages that lead to divorce.

Complementarianism is the doctrine that all men are created by God to be leaders and all women are created by God to follow the lead of men, and most especially, if a woman is married, she must follow the leading of her husband. This is also known as male headship and patriarchy.

Complementarianism is an unbiblical and ugly doctrine, camouflaged by romantic and flowery language. But why not call a spade a spade? The Bible says we can put a ring in a pig's snout, but it doesn't change the fact that it's still a pig. In the same way, complementarians spice up a truly unpalatable paradigm and spoon-feed it to the hungry masses. 

The Bible says, To the hungry soul, every bitter thing is sweet. 

Do all good relationships require effort? Of course they do. But why are Christian leaders agreeing with Muslims, Hindus, Mormons, and primitive cultures the world over, that autonomous adults are required by God to observe a gender-based hierarchy, all the while claiming to be different from the world but, in reality, when it comes to marriage and the "place" of women, are identical to it?  

Most true-believing complementarians say marriage is very difficult. Why is this the case? 

The male-headship paradigm of role-relationship is often the root cause of marital unhappiness. Wives are unhappy in unbiblical and unnatural subordinate roles, and husbands are unhappy because their wives find it so difficult to be submissive. The children of such unions grow up with an unbiblical sense of place that will certainly harm the healthy development of future adult relationships.  

It is a fact that every professing complementarian is not a true believer in the doctrine, but to avoid shunning by their Christian communities (yes mainstream Christian communities do practice shunning, just not officially) publicly play the game while essentially practicing egalitarian autonomy in the privacy of their homes and in their everyday lives. This duplicity can confuse and developmentally harm children raised in such environments. 

Prominent church leaders teach a divinely ordained gender-based-military-like hierarchy in marriage and in church leadership. Yet this hierarchy is the root cause in much of the unhappiness experienced by married couples and among church members. 

The Complementarian Paradox: All branches of the military prohibit personal and business fraternization between officers and enlisted members, calling it prejudicial to good order and disciple. But in complementarian marriages, the husband is the officer, and the wife is the enlisted member. But in marriage, fraternization is essential, though it is well-known that fraternization [rightly] breaks down hierarchical order. Yet the constant narrative of complementarians is hierarchical "order" when speaking or writing about the roles of men and women, either in or out of marriage.

Herein lies the paradox: complementarians push marriage, yet, according to hierarchical complementarian doctrine, marriage is an impossible endeavor, because you can't have true biblical [oneness] in marriage without fraternization. But according to military law, which no one disagrees with, you can't fraternize and have hierarchical order at the same time. 

Fraternization and hierarchy are mutually exclusive...always.  

Church leaders should mind their own business and stay out of the business of controlling everyone else's marriages. The Bible has plenty to say about how Christians are to treat one another. There is no separate set of rules for Christians who happen to be married to one another. 

Statistics prove the complementarian/male-headship/patriarchal model doesn't work, either in marriage or in church hierarchy. The vast majority of churches are complementarian, and what do we see? Statistics show church membership is down and professing Christians divorce at the same rates as non-Christians. 

The model does not work. 

As a result of the failure, we see a plethora of theories coming from complementarians to try and explain it while clinging for all they're worth to an unbiblical theology.

The only male that can claim headship is Jesus.  I write in detail about this in my book.

Complementarian marriages can "difficult" because the male headship model is unbiblical. Just because it "works" in some cases, does not make it of God. Alissa Wall, who left an extreme male-headship Latter Day Saint cult, wrote that polygamy indeed does "work" in some cases. Her mother was a happy sister-wife, but Alissa proclaimed that did not prove that polygamy was from God. No mainstream complementarian Christian disagrees with Alissa. But Christian complementarianism is no different. It's unbiblical and wrong. Just because some professing complementarians make it work and are happy, does not mean it is God's great design for men and women. 

Complementarianism, male-headship, and patriarchy are identical. Taken to its extreme, patriarchy is dangerous and even deadly. At least one out of six Christian marriages experiences marital violence at least once. Three women a day die from domestic violence, which is a purely a gender-based crime exacerbated by male-headship teaching. And who is most responsible for foisting the doctrine of female subordination to male headship on the mainstream Christian community? The doctrine flows from the auspices of the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW).

According to every complementarian that speaks on the subject, marriage is difficult. In her book, Let Me be a Woman, the late Elizabeth Elliot wrote of the difficulty of marriage and said that married women often cry for no reason

A ridiculous premise. 

If a woman is bursting into tears, there is a reason, even if she refuses to admit the reason for it. Shame on Elizabeth Elliot and other complementarians for claiming women are irrational creatures who often cry for no reason.   

The Bible does speak to singleness as being better for ministry, for both women and men. Unmarried Christians have more freedom to dedicate their time and attention toward God alone without responsibility towards a spouse. But everyone is not made for singleness. 

The Bible also says two are better than one and a wife is a good thing.  

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Your Desire Shall be for Your Husband: The Meaning of Tshuwqah

 


Dr John Hagee wrote in his Life Plan Study Bible, that a woman's desire for her husband would be the desire to rule in the home and subordinate her husband's [alleged] spiritual authority. and this would be the cause of the majority of marital problems.  

John Piper published on his Desiring God website that a woman's desire would be contrary to the desires of her husband. 

This ideology is disseminated by the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW). 

I call it the "Evil Woman" Doctrine.

Evil Woman

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Satan found in her an ally; and so pleased was he with the results of the partnership he has never dissolved the firm.

Justin D. Fulton  

The True Woman, 1869 

Most complementarian leaders interpret Genesis 3:16, "Thy desire shall be to thy husband," to mean that all women, since the fall of creation, are born with innate desires to dominate their husbands.[1] This idea was introduced in 1975 by Susan T. Foh.[2] Prior to that date, even traditional role religionists interpreted Genesis 3:16 to mean that a woman’s desire for her husband could refer to either a physical desire strong enough to compensate for the pain of childbirth, or a desire to submit to her husband’s leadership. Both interpretations obviously come from male perspectives involving either sexual relations or submission to male authority. A more logical perspective would be that the woman would continue to long for a loving relationship with her spouse in spite of his tyranny over her.  Either way, no one argued that a woman’s desire would be for her husband. There was so much agreement among Christians concerning that portion of the verse that the 1909 edition of Schofield’s Reference Bible contained no commentary at all on it. However, since Foh set forth her theory in 1975, discussion has accelerated with complementarians adopting her position, and in 1988, the editors of a new study Bible set forth the traditional interpretations that a woman’s desire would be for her husband, but also added Foh’s theory that a woman’s desire might also be against her husband.[3]

Foh’s theory cannot be substantiated by scripture and introduces further theological complications as complementarian males seem quite willing to be taught by this female in opposition of their own policy which forbids women to authoritatively teach men.[4]

Bruce Ware, Senior Associate Dean and professor of Christian Theology of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary (and past President and current board member of the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood) is in agreement with Foh. The official website of the CBMW contains a statement which reads: Sin introduced into God's created design many manifestations of disruption, among them a disruption in the proper role-relations between man and woman…Genesis 3:15-16, informs us that the male/female relationship would now, because of sin, be affected by mutual enmity. In particular, the woman would have a desire to usurp the authority given to man in creation, leading to man, for his part, ruling over woman in what can be either rightfully-corrective or wrongfully-abusive ways (emphasis added).”

There are a number of problems with this statement, not the least of which is a non-biblical blame-shift to the woman for any abuse she may “bring on herself” through non-submission to so-called male authority. There is also no mention in Genesis or anywhere else in the Bible concerning a “mutual enmity” between males and females—only between the seed of the serpent and the seed of the woman. Men who are of the serpent’s seed will be at enmity with women and women are certainly justified in viewing such as enemies, husbands or no. Nowhere in scripture is woman identified as being the “particular” enemy of man; but man is clearly identified in Genesis 3:16 as being the particular enemy of woman. . . and he shall rule over thee.

The scriptures are clear that we are each accountable for our own sin. No matter what the provocation, if we sin, it is our choice and ours alone, so for the council[5] to absolve husbands of personal responsibility for abusive behavior, for whatever reason, is reprehensible. And we would also ask for examples of actions one autonomous adult might take against another autonomous adult (specifically husbands against wives) that the council would deem rightfully corrective.

Is there ever a situation where a man can rule over a woman, just because he is a man and she is a woman, in a rightfully-corrective manner? At one time, the law permitted a husband to beat his wife or “correct” her in other ways, but the scriptures are clear that even those who are legitimately over us in the Lord, our shepherds, pastors, bishops, etc., are  commanded not to rule over the flock of God. They are to prefer their flocks before themselves even as their flocks are commanded to do the same for them.[6]

How dare the council teach that “In particular” the woman would have a desire to usurp the authority given to man; this statement is in direct contradiction to the words spoken by the Lord God Himself who said that it would not only be a particular desire of husbands to rule over wives, but a physical reality. Where, in the Genesis account, is a clear witness to the alleged “authority” of males? Genesis 3:16 was not a command, blessing, or promotion in status for the man. This was a prediction of cursed behavior directly resulting from sin. But men who would be God embrace cursed behavior as divine.

Proponents of the “mutual enmity” error also read into the text the non-existent idea of the passive man. And then, of course, blame the woman for his passivity.  

Carolyn Mahaney, author and wife of C. J. Mahaney,[7] writes that women will have a, “sinful tendency to resist their husband’s authority, women will have an urge to manipulate, control or have the mastery over men.”[8]

DeMoss,[9] joins with Mahaney in chanting the “evil woman” mantra in her book, Lies Women Believe. In this book, she instructs women in how to be free from their evil drive to control men. She accuses women of de-motivating and emasculating the men in their lives.[10] There is neither historical nor scriptural ground for such vicious accusations on the part of Mahaney, DeMoss, the council, and a host of other complementarian authors.

No complementarian can produce even one verse of scripture that validates the “Evil Woman” theory. Yet they keep chanting the mantra. Virtually every author endorsed by the CBMW chants the same “mantra” concerning the usurping, dominating, emasculating wife.

Are those who promote this view aware that in interpreting Genesis 3:16 as they do, they are actually teaching that wives have an evil desire dedicated to, not just ruling over husbands, but to the utter destruction of them? In spite of this devastating interpretation, Susan Foh’s construal of the word desire in Genesis 3:16, has come to be almost universally accepted among complementarians.

Those who hold to Foh’s explanation, base their entire case on just one verse located in Genesis 4:7 where we read of sin lying at the door with its desire being for Cain. The phrase “sin lieth at the door…,” in Hebrew, has a connotation of a lion, a carnivorous predator, crouching at the door. The lion’s “desire” is for its prey. And what does a lion want to do with its prey? Why does a lion crouch? Doesn’t a lion crouch in preparation to pounce? And doesn’t a lion pounce in order to kill and eat its prey? 

A lion’s desire for its prey is to utterly destroy and consume it—not to dominate and control it, or to usurp authority from it. The hermeneutical bungee jumping required to reference Genesis 4:7 in defining a woman’s desire for her husband is astonishing.

The word desire, translated from the Hebrew word, tshuwqah, has been a matter of controversy for centuries among Bible scholars. The Hebrew translators of the Greek Septuagint (LXX) translated tshuwqah as “turning,” and not as desire. In the Hebrew, similarities to, tshuwqah, are found in a primary Hebrew word “shuwb[11] translated “bring again” (or return) in 2 Chronicles 11:1. Upon inquiry concerning the Greek LXX translation and whether or not the Hebrew word tshuwqah may have descended through the primary root shuwb, the answer was negative, but that both Greek words in the LXX did carry the connotation of “turning.” Our question then, is why isn’t it a consideration that both Hebrew words might carry similar connotations (even if one did not descend from the other) especially as no one claims to know for sure what tshuwqah actually means.[12]

Nineteenth and early twentieth century Hebrew and Greek scholar, Katharine Bushnell, rejected the current translation of tshuwqah as desire and gives compelling evidence for why the word should be translated “turning” as it is translated in the LXX .[13]

In the 1535 Coverdale Bible, tshuwqah is translated as “turn” in Song of Solomon 7:10, “There wil I turne me vnto my loue, and he shal turne him vnto me.”[14] The Douay Rheims Bible also translates the word as turning, “I to my beloved, and his turning is towards me.” Prior to either of these translations, ancient evidence abounds that turning is the correct translation of tshuwqah. Not only the Greek Septuagint attests to this, but the Syriac Peshitto and the Old Latin Bible (among many other ancient sources) render tshuwqah as turning in both Genesis and The Song of Solomon.

Even if tshuwqah is correctly translated desire, which, in view of the ancient evidence is unlikely, it is important to understand that on this single portion of scripture the entire evil-woman doctrine rests. If we are to accept tshuwqah defined as “desire,” we can find no other definition that fits beyond simple “longing.” Anything else is pure conjecture. The context in which this word is found must determine whether the tshuwqah is good or bad. Just because, in Genesis Chapter Four, sin’s tshuwqah for Cain is destructive, does not mean that in Genesis Chapter Three, the woman’s tshuwqah for her husband does not parallel the tshuwqah found in the Song of Solomon.  

In modern Bibles, Tshuwqah is translated “desire” in the Song of Solomon, Chapter Seven, where Coverdale translated, “There will I turn me unto my love, and he shall turn him unto me.” The Song of Solomon is both a prophecy and a tender love story. No one would dare say the desire, in this passage, is a desire to pounce on and destroy. Yet it is the same Hebrew word, tshuwqah that is used in Genesis 3:16 where the woman was told that, in spite of the fact that her husband would rule over her instead of loving and cherishing her as he was created to do, her tshuwqah would be towards him.

Those who have attached a destructive connotation to the use of the word “desire” as used in Genesis 3:16 ignore the other two contexts in which tshuwqah has been used.  

Wives are predators whose desire is for the utter destruction of their husbands? The idea is preposterous. The Bible doesn’t teach it and neither do history, statistics, psychological studies, nor surveys prove it. There is not a shred of evidence, anywhere, that can back up such a claim.

The illustration of a wife crouching at the door, like a lioness, in readiness to pounce upon her husband paints an ugly picture that ascends straight out of the abyss. If this interpretation is true, then stakes in the gender war are high indeed with the very survival of the male gender at stake. If that is the case, then the writers of the Pastoral Letter of the General Association of Massachusetts, 1837, had every right to claim they were forced by woman to array themselves in “self-defense against her.”[15]

But the survival of the male sex is not at stake, and woman is not the natural and most powerful enemy of man. Aside from God, if man would only accept it, woman—not dog—is his best friend and strongest ally. And she functions best in this capacity when her practical equality is acknowledged and implemented. In spite of the difficulties involved with engaging in intimate relationships with those who consider themselves rulers and betters by divine mandate, woman has shown dogged persistence in efforts at taking a difficult—and sometimes deadly—concept and trying to make it work.  The well known tendency of wives in longing for, and turning towards disinterested and even abusive husbands is beyond dispute—and that has been prophesied in the word tshuwqah, whichever meaning one assigns to it.

It is difficult, if not impossible, to maintain true intimacy and affection with a subordinate. Military experts know this, and that is why all branches of the U.S. military have non-fraternization policies between officers and subordinates. Historically, as the Pastoral Letter so clearly illustrates, anytime woman has attempted to voice an opinion or receive respect on equal terms with man, her efforts have been interpreted as insubordinate and hostile and been met with instant corrective action. This is still the case today as illustrated in Bruce Ware’s address to the Denton Bible Church in 2008—apparently in response to Christian women’s attempts to gain equality with men in their homes and churches. In spite of his piteous argument about how he felt forced to leave more important things in order to deal with the tedious issue of gender roles, Ware clearly felt that keeping women in line was the most important issue or he would have exerted his time and energy in dealing with all those other more important things. In practical application, Ware addressed the subordination of women with utmost urgency while at the same time attempted to minimize his actions by referring to more important things. What’s caught is more important than what’s taught, and actions speak louder than words. There is little doubt that the subjection of women is the most important thing on Ware’s agenda.

As with Ware’s message at Denton Bible Church, there are times the “corrective” action, taken to maintain male authority, resembles a declaration of war. The Christian leadership of their time considered the public lecturing of Angelina & Sarah Grimkè to be an imminent threat to male authority. Bishops in Massachusetts wrote that when a woman declares no need for the care and protection of men, she is actually making a declaration of war against men, thereby causing them to place themselves in a position of self-defense against her.[16] That declaration was essentially in agreement with the attitudes and beliefs of the majority of Christian males of the period regardless of denomination. Not surprisingly, in reading the policies of evangelical organizations such as the CBMW, we see that many of the same attitudes that prompted the Pastoral Letter still prevail today.

The gender war has produced many casualties over the centuries—literally—with most of the dead and wounded being female. So, if Genesis 3:16 is indeed a prediction that women would be like lions crouching at the door desiring men as their primary victims, it has turned out to be a false prophecy altogether, with women proving to be very poor predators.


[1] One of the consequences of the Fall for women…is that their “desire shall be for their husbands…because of the curse, we now have a sinful tendency to want our own way and to resist our husband’s authority. This evil desire poses the greatest opposition to our submission…when a wife is not submissive; she is only caving in to her natural inclination to usurp authority and demand her own way. Carolyn Mahaney, Feminine Appeal, 2003, 2004

[2] Susan Foh "What Is the Woman's Desire?", 1975, “Sin’s desire for Cain was one of possession or control. The desire was such that Cain should master it, wrestle with it and conquer it; it required an active struggle. . . . [In Gen. 3:16] there is a struggle . . . between the one who has the desire (wife) and the one who must / should rule or master (husband). . . . After the fall, the husband no longer rules easily; he must fight for his headship. The woman’s desire is to control her husband . . . and he must master her, if he can. Sin has corrupted both the willing submission of the wife and the loving headship of the husband. And so, the rule of love founded in paradise is replaced by struggle, tyranny, domination, and manipulation…” http://faculty.gordon.edu/hu/bi/Ted_Hildebrandt/OTeSources/01-Genesis/Text/Articles-Books/Foh-WomansDesire-WTJ.pdf

[3] The King James Study Bible, Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN, 1988

[4]In the church, redemption in Christ gives men and women an equal share in the blessings of salvation; nevertheless, some governing and teaching roles within the church are restricted to men…” 1 Timothy 11-15. The Danvers Statement http://www.cbmw.org/Danvers

[5] The Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW)

[6] 1 Peter 5:5 KJV

[7] C. J. Mahaney is President of the patriarchal Sovereign Grace Ministries as well as Board Member and  Council Member of the CBMW

[8] Feminine Appeal, Crossway Books, 2003, 2004

[9] DeMoss is a member of CBMW’s Board of Reference

[10] “We end up emasculating the men around us…I find myself wondering how many wounded or strong men I have cast down…How many men have I discouraged or intimidated?...We strip men of the motivation to fulfill their God-given calling to provide leadership.” Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Biblical Womanhood in the Home, Crossway Books, Wheaton, Illinois, 2002

[11] Strong’s Reference H 7725

[12] Dear Jocelyn, What an interesting question.  As you know, the data on "teshuquah" is scarce. . . the word occurs only three times in the Hebrew bible:  Genesis 3:16, 4:7 and Song of Songs 7:11.  The LXX (Septuagint) renders it with "apostrophe" the first two times and "epistrophe" in the Canticle. . . and you are correct that these Greek words have to do with "turning." …What to say?  I wish there were more data… Dr. Ting Wang, Biblical Hebrew Instructor, Stanford University (Ph.D. from Hebrew Union College--Jewish Institute of Religion).

[13] Katharine Bushnell, (1856-1946), God’s Word to Women, 100 studies began in 1908, lessons 17 & 18,

http://godswordtowomen.org/lesson%2017.htm, http://godswordtowomen.org/lesson%2018.htm [11/30/2009]

[14] Coverdale Bible, 1535, Miles Coverdale

[15] “…when she assumes the place and tone of a man as a public reformer, our care and protection of her seem unnecessary, we put ourselves in self-defense against her, she yields the power which God has given her for protection, and her character becomes unnatural.” Pastoral Letter of the General Association of Massachusetts, June 28, 1837

[16] ibid

This is an excerpt of the book, Woman this is WAR! Gender, Slavery, and the Evangelical Castes System.

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