If you weren't in your current denomination, what other denomination would you be?

   I moved away from denominationalism decades ago. I have spent the years since, worshiping and fellow-shipping with Believers of all stripes and color and have come to believe denominations are more hindrance than help in the Body of Christ. 

   It is simply not true that we get more done and win more souls when we transform the living organism of The Ekklesia into a man-made organization, whether or not we choose to turn our fellowships into creations of the State via 501c3 status.

   Creating tax-exempt organizations immediately alters the focus from growing in relationship with Christ [and with our Sisters and Brothers in Christ] to "growing the ministries." And like it or not, at that point, money becomes the top priority. Salaries, fee's, rents, mortgages, utilities, supplies, financing events...the list goes on and on.  

   Unbiblical hierarchies begin running the show. Activities are planned, positions assigned, members are kept busy, busy, BUSY. So busy, in fact, that for many, there is little time to let their lights shine anywhere else, aside from church. 

   For many Christian families, life becomes: work, church, children's school or sports activities, work, church, school or children's sports activities, work, church, children's school or sports activities. I have heard from Christians who do not have the school or sports activities to deal with, but even without that, they simply do not have time for personal activities they might enjoy, because they are so busy with church stuff.

   I am not saying denominations and faith-based 501c3's are cults, but many of them--most all large "successful" churches--use the same tactics cults use to keep their members supporting the org. They do this by creating so many departments and activities, creating skewed loyalties to church leaders and the ministry itself, keeping members "accountable" and so busy attending and maintaining church stuff, they simply don't have time or energy for anything else. 

   I do not say pastors premeditate to accomplish this deliberately--though some do. But in order to maintain the organization, to keep the beast fed and thriving, a vicious cycle must be created that becomes almost impossible to break without self-destructing. The never-ending cycle is necessary to keep the organization alive. 

   Another feature of denominationalism, is separation. Some denominations are better at this than others. But denominational separation within the One Body that is the Church of the Living God...is wrong. 

   If you belong to Jesus, you belong with me. We belong with each other. And this can be accomplished without creating divisive denominations and organizations. The foundation of faith in Christ, connects every believer. And the rest is theology, which we should all be encouraged to study, discuss, and strive to understand.

   There is so much more to this than room to explore in just one post.     

   But my position is, that Christian growth and discipleship can be accomplished, souls can be won, the work of the ministry can be done in a more fulfilling and effective manner without denominational behemoths and without the rigid hierarchical and theological structures found within both small and large denominations. Without these, so many issues that divide the Body of Christ and harm Christians, would become non-existent or vastly reduced.

   And with times being what they are, shepherds should begin preparing their flocks for alternatives to the denominational status quo, which could be snatched from them at a moment's notice. Didn't we see this in the pandemonium of the 2020 lock-downs? So the question really isn't, "What if you weren't in your current denomination...?," but rather, "What if your denomination was suddenly outlawed and shut down? What would you do then? Where would you go?"

   As the apostle declared, "I have purposed to know nothing among you but Christ!" 

   There is only one Name that is above every name, and that is the name of our precious Savior, the Lord Jesus. 

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What does CHURCHIANITY look like?

 

Being  CHURCHY smothers friendship, does not promote love, and hinders the work of the Gospel.

   That is why we must make every effort not to be "Churchy" Christians.
   When we are, we hurt people.
   We drive people away.
   And sometimes, we drive them away from more than just ourselves or our church fellowships....
   

CHURCHY Christianity, produces a paradigm I call "Churchianity."

   

What does CHURCHIANITY look like? I'll share a  personal experience as an example.
   I had plans one evening to attend a regularly scheduled Bible Study at a local assembly I love to visit several times a year. The pastors and I have known and respected one another for many years. And, because the pastors of this church are much more than acquaintances to me, I call them friends. But I am forced to use the term loosely, because the reality is, they fall shy of being true friends. 

   The reason is CHURCHIANITY. 

   I can love them and support them [and their ministry] in many ways, but cannot include them in my inner circle of friends and confidants, because I fully appreciate their limitations in relating to people in the capacity of equality and friendship--which requires transparent honesty [while maintaining healthy boundaries], and genuine respect.
   These are good people. They are not dysfunctional in the traditional sense--they are truly lovely in most respects. But they are dysfunctional in the religious sense.
   You see, the shield of their "pastorship" stands on full alert against the equality and intimacy that true friendship demands. 

   Do not misunderstand. I do not encourage disrespect of callings and positions of leadership, we should love and honor leaders who exhibit good examples of Christian living. And even CHURCHY Christians generally have many admirable traits which unfortunately are often diluted due to churchiness. What I am addressing in this post, is hiding behind titles, positions,  religiousity, and CHURCHIANITY, things which have a track-record of taking priority over relationships. 

   I have observed that many [well-intentioned and basically good-hearted] Christians seem to be unable to lower the shields of their "position" or CHURCHINESS...ever. 
   And it does damage in the lives of God's people.
  Sadly, most seminaries teach future pastors and Christian leaders, that the attitude of the couple in my story is the correct posture for pastors and their wives to take--but I disagree with that position. 

   The family relationship that connects every member of the Body of Christ  cannot flourish in a hierarchical, military-like, chain-of-command, structure that overwhelmingly produces CHURCHY and JUDGEMENTAL Christians, who fail to relate fully with those who may need their love and friendship but are instead rebuked, even rejected, when they make choices that may not be wrong at all but fall outside the paradigm of CHURCHIANITY.
   While appreciating this couple's many gifts and strengths, along with their sincere passion for the Gospel, I understand that they embrace the paradigm of hierarchical Christianity which includes filters that cloud discernment and prevents true empathy and bonding in the fellowship of the Holy Spirit.

   Back to my story:
   Since I had communicated with the pastor's wife about my plans to attend that evening, they were expecting to see me, so I felt it only right to let her know I would not be coming.
   The reason? Earlier that afternoon, I had learned that a dear friend [of almost twenty years] had passed away. This person had been a beloved friend, a part of the landscape of my life for twenty years. And now that landscape had been unexpectedly and dramatically changed...and I was heartbroken at the look of it, at the loss of a friend, ally, and mentor.
   Since I was expected to be at the Bible study that evening (I was not teaching it), I texted the pastor's wife and told her that I would not be there and briefly explained that a dear friend had died, I had been very weepy all afternoon, and simply was not up to interacting with people or going anywhere, not even to church.
   The well-meant but "CHURCHY" response I received to that text,  flabbergasted me. 

   And to be honest, it totally ticked me off. 

   I had obviously shared my sad news with the wrong person, but more importantly (I'm sharing this the way it went down--the way I felt at the time), I felt I had shared it on the wrong day.
   In her texted response, I was told they were sorry for my loss (so far so good), then I was rebuked for skipping church and condescendingly assured that they would pray for my "strength."
   Wow. How does being rebuked for not attending someone's 501c3 group meeting that night translate into love one another, bear one another's burdens, and weep with those who weep?
   What would have been wrong with saying, "We're so sorry to hear. We love you and understand. Would you like some company later? We can stop by for a bit after church?" 
   I certainly would  have appreciated their understanding and their offer, though I likely would have declined as I really did want to be alone that evening.
   What I did not understand and did not appreciate, was being told that church was the "best place to be" that night [despite my wishes to the contrary] but they would "pray" for my "strength."

   THIS, is an example of what CHURCHIANITY looks like and what to do if being a CHURCHY Christian is your goal.
   Please understand, that I never, EVER, turn down prayer. I appreciate and solicit all prayers on my behalf. And I generally believe gathering together with other believers is [or should be] one of the greatest places on earth to be. But I'm old enough to remember the days when people who called themselves your friends CAME TO YOU in times of sorrow and loss, instead of expecting you to come to them. And they certainly did not rebuke you for preferring to be in your own home during an evening of private grief because your news had the bad taste of inconveniently arriving on a day their 501c3 organization was holding a regularly scheduled meeting.
   I thank God for local churches, but almost all local fellowships are 501c3 organizations where the ekklesia meets. It is the Christians themselves (not the 501c3 faith-based non-profit organization) who are the CHURCH--the ekklesia.

   Sadness over the loss of a friend does not generally make one weak

   I did not feel I needed strength that day--only the time and space to grieve the loss of my friend. At the time, I felt the statement about praying for my "strength" was more connected to my choice to stay home from church rather than the fact that I had lost a dear friend. I felt that my choice to spend the evening at home in private grief rather than come to church was viewed as weakness. I still feel that way.

   But I felt my grief was normal, appropriate, and even healthy. What was wrong with wanting to mourn my friend's passing in the solitude and privacy of my own home instead of at a public church meeting?
   Right or wrong, I felt both remarks [praying for my strength and the rebuke for not coming to church that night], were condescending, "CHURCHY," and lacked empathy. And in the emotional weepy state I was, it impacted me in a much more dramatic and painful way than it would have had my sorrow not been freely flowing from my eyes and down my cheeks all that afternoon.
   Being sorrowful because someone we love has died, is not a "weakness." It is completely natural. What I would have loved and appreciated, would have been a positive message that my sadness was understood and that I had friends who  loved me without placing inappropriate "church guilt" on me for not attending their meeting simply because someone had died.
   I realized that I was emotional and worried that I might have been over-reacting to what I felt was a CHURCHY response. I knew this Christian did not intend her message to hurt. But her religious response, containing a thinly-veiled criticism and condemnation had injected a sense of injustice and even anger into my grief that did not belong there. I did not feel that I was doing anything wrong, but they obviously did, and now I had to deal with that judgement on top of everything else (and I wasn't dealing with it too well at the time, I didn't think). 

   I did not feel I was being a bad Christian, but they obviously did. I did not feel I owed anyone any explanation at all as to why I did not attend their meeting that night--except as a courtesy, because I had made special plans to be there, and had told them to expect me.
   I was offended. I admit it.
  I discerned the rebuke and condescension and felt they were passive-aggressive "CHURCHY" remarks, intended to set me straight in a way that would hopefully not make the person making the remarks appear or sound uncaring.

   But that's exactly the way they looked and sounded to me.    

   Now, I know that the person who made these remarks generally means well and probably spoke without thinking how her remarks might sound or how they might be taken by someone who had just admitted to her that they were in an emotional "weepy" state. But "CHURCHY" attitudes [from this person] had come out more than once over the years. We have communicated together about this "issue," but to no avail as of the time of this writing. Everything is swept under the rug and remains unresolved. 

   How much of this can any relationship bear?
   I write this, in hopes that light can be shed on the the problem of "CHURCHY CHURCHIANITY." It is widespread. This is not the only example I can give--and have heard from others whose experiences are even worse. My hope and prayer is that God's people will see CHURCHIANITY for the shallow and hurtful, lose-lose, fraud, that it is... and change it. 

   Yes, this interaction affected me in a personal and hurtful way. Did it cause me to write them off and vow never to visit their church again? No. I have fellowshipped with them many times since. Did it cause me to question and doubt their good intentions and faith? No. We are all works in progress. Did it cause me to question God's love for me? Of course not. 

   But I have spoken with many people who testify that has not been the case for them.  

   CHURCHY Christians do not intend to drive people away from fellowship with other Christians or even away from God, but they sometimes do!
   Loving one another other is not rocket science, and religiousity has no place in relationships.
   People of God, it is time to throw out CHURCHIANITY. It is time to repent of the times we may have been "CHURCHY" Christians ourselves [if we are truthful, we can admit that, at some point, we all have been], but through the help of the Word of God and the power of the Holy Spirit we can be convicted of hurtful behaviors and attitudes...and change them when they appear in our own lives. We can stop churchianity in its tracks.

Have you experienced hurtful and disappointing CHURCHY CHURCHIANITY? How did it affect you? How did you deal with it? Share your experience in the comment section below.