Sunday, May 14, 2017

Girls are Different from Guys: Where Angels Play

   Differences do not threaten equality between the sexes, and the conservative feminist recognizes and celebrates differences between women and men. 
   Take for instance, the truck driver, Dianne Lively, who felt she was delivering the most special load of her life when she picked up a playground donated by, “Where Angels Play Foundation,” dedicated to the memory of little Ryanne Cara. 
   Lively was profoundly moved to be a small part of honoring the memory of a little girl’s life. And she felt privileged to be a part of the wonderful work of, “Where Angels Play Foundation,” in delivering Ryanne Cara's memorial playground. 
   She called a florist and arranged for balloons and ribbons to be delivered to a truck stop not far from the playground location. She contacted her broker and explained there would be a short delay while she stopped to decorate the truck before delivery. 
   The broker then called his contact at, “Where Angels Play,” and told them what she was up to. 
   This resulted in a last minute, quickly assembled--but very special--welcome, for the truck driver at the playground location, where a group was waiting to assemble and dedicate the playground. 
   Ryanne Cara's parents were there. The woman expecting in the picture below is her mother. 
   After she arrived, Lively was told that she was the only truck driver to ever decorate a truck for  playground delivery. They were so touched by extra effort she put into  celebrating Ryanne Cara's life and the delivery of the memorial playground, they made her an honorary member of the Foundation!
    Many, if not most, behaviors defined as “feminine” or “masculine” are culturally developed and deeply--but artificially--ingrained. The conservative feminist understands this. But what truck driver, Dianne Lively, did, was a uniquely female thing. 
   Men do wonderful things as well. Things that could be understood to be uniquely male things, and this writer has every intention of writing about them as they come to her attention. But few would argue that it simply would not occur to most males--truckers at that--to call a florist,  then drive down the highway with balloons and ribbons fluttering from their trucks. 
   The evidence of this lies in the fact that numerous "Where Angels Play" playgrounds have been delivered by male truck drivers--most of them in fact--and not one playground was delivered with balloons and ribbons decorating the big-rig.
   Until Dianne Lively made her entrance. 
   What Lively did was special. It touched the hearts of Ryanne Cara's parents and all the others who awaited the delivery of a playground that, in the memory of one precious little girl whose life was far too short. would bring joy to many children.

Friday, May 12, 2017

The Conservative Feminist

   I have changed the name of my blog to, THE CONSERVATIVE FEMINIST, because that is what I am, and there are many others like me. Our numbers increase daily. We have been laughed to scorn and told that conservatives cannot be feminists.
   But we know better. 
Stay tuned. More coming....

Friday, November 04, 2016

Such is Life

Yes, I voted for Donald Trump in the early voting. Such is life. I do not believe he is dangerous and I am absolutely convinced of his sincere love for this country as well as his competence to run it. I am also as relieved as everyone else to have this election season  almost behind us. 

Life goes on, regardless of the outcome. 

Sunday, October 23, 2016

The Difference Between a Feminist and a Radical Feminist

    Do we recognize the difference between Muslims who seek to peacefully practice their Islamic faith and those referred to as "radical Islamists" who rape, pillage, behead, crucify, burn people alive, murder, maim, and in general seek to subdue the world for their own cruel purposes? 
  I do, and I believe it is high time that Christians and conservatives acknowledge that there also exists a difference between those who call themselves feminists (as I call myself) and those who should only be referred "radical feminists." 
   Feminists advocate from a position of compassion in working for functional equality of the sexes and towards the worthy goal of girls and women enjoying true equity with boys and men--in every sphere of life--but it stops there. Feminists do not seek preferential treatment or superior advantage for women over men. 
   Feminists honor human life, and do not need to trample on the lives and Constitutional Rights of others in order to achieve the functional and Constitutional equality they seek and deserve.
   Radical feminists, on the other hand, seem to operate from a position of selfcenteredness, fear of and hatred towards men, and do not honor the lives of pre-born babies. Nor do they honor the Constitutional and Civil rights of those who disagree with them concerning their radical agenda. Therein lies the difference between the two.
   Feminism honors and affirms life. Radical feminism does not.

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Thursday, August 11, 2016

A call to Conservative's to stop labeling anti-family pro-abortion supporters as "THE FEMINISTS"

Feminism a cult as defined [by men] in 1931  

I am issuing a call to all conservatives who value equality--especially those who have media platforms--to refrain from equating anti-family and pro-death platforms with feminism.

 Just as all pro-family and pro-life supporters do not support equality of the sexes, all who support abortion and anti-family agendas are not feminists.

Feminism, from the beginning, has been simply defined as advocating for women full equality with men in all things. 

Of course, historically, the very idea was bizarre and outlandish to many and--most importantly--defined by men who unequivocally opposed the very idea of the sexes being equal in any way (women did not write and publish dictionaries at that time, nor did they have a say in what went into them) .  

The oldest dictionary this writer owns is the 1931 Universities Webster Dictionary which does not contain the word feminist at all but does libel feminism as a "cult."  

Regardless of its actual meaning, most people associate the word "cult" with evil, oppressive, dangerous, and false. 

That is the biased connotation deliberately infused into and associated with the the word feminism from the very beginning by those who opposed the premise--prejudice at its finest. 

One pro-family, 19th century, feminist claimed that had she known in advance of the fierce persecution she would endure because of her activism for the full equality of men and women, it is doubtful she would have begun her advocacy in the first place.

By 1943, in some circles, feminism had been upgraded, somewhat, from a "cult" to a "doctrine." 

The word "feminist" finally appears in a dictionary and is defined simply as: "One who advocates feminism."

 In 1955, Webster's continues its hateful narrative and stubbornly discriminates against the idea of equality of the sexes with their "cult" disinformation. (Webster's Complete Unabridged).
Keeping in mind that the word feminism was originally defined by men who opposed any semblance of equality of the sexes, it must be noted that the word was deliberately biased, from the beginning, with a hateful connotation that it does not in reality possess. 

"THE FEMINISTS" narrative is pure propaganda that has been bought into--almost wholesale--even by those who support equality of the sexes.

It is time to stop perpetuating the lie (even unwittingly) that equality is evil. 

An open and objective conversation about equality for women and men is impossible when the very words "FEMINISM" and "FEMINISTS" (words that mean nothing more than advocacy for full equality of men and women) are constantly used as a synonyms for every evil agenda under the sun.

When speaking of the pro-abortion issue, I implore equality loving, pro-life, media commentators and reporters to call them for what they are, pro-abortion supporters--not "THE FEMINISTS." When speaking of the gay marriage issue, I implore pro-family advocates with public platforms to please call them for what they are, gay marriage supporters--not "THE FEMINISTS." 

Conservatives who have pubic platforms and large followings, I implore you to please stop referring to those in the political far left collectively as "THE FEMINISTS. When you do this, you effectively lump all supporters of full equality between women and men (including those of us who are pro-life and pro-family) in bed together, jointly promoting an anti-life anti-family agenda, when that is not the case and could not be further from the truth.

Feminism is not evil. Equality is good. Feminists are not evil. Equality is good.

The practice of conservatives (even by those who support equality) of re-defining the pro-abortion and anti-family far left democratic platform as a FEMINIST agenda perpetuates an utterly false narrative.  

Equality of the sexes is not evil. Inequality of the sexes is evil, and has been the cause of human suffering throughout the history of the world.

What is a feminist? One who supports the full equality of women and men and advocates for feminism, which is the practice of those who advocate for full equality of men and women. 

Equality is a good thing!

Sunday, August 07, 2016

Why I am voting for Donald Trump in November

Ever since I voted for Ted Cruz in the Florida Closed Primaries (which I would like to see opened), I have wondered why I didn't just go ahead and vote for Donald Trump from the get-go. 

My husband did. 

I secretly wanted to. But I caved to the propaganda and  shaming tactics of the left in painting--with a very insulting broad brush--all Trump supporters as ignorant, uneducated, and ill-informed, along with the unsubstantiated-oft-repeated-lie that Donald Trump is a dangerous man--not true. 

So I admit it. I listened to the propaganda that he was dangerous and chose the safer route [I thought] by voting for Cruz. I allowed myself to be frightened into not voting for Trump in the Florida Primaries, but heaved a deep sigh of relief and celebrated along with the rest of his supporters when he won Florida anyway!

I probably possess enough college credits to claim an associates degree, but two years shy of a bachelor's degree, gasp! I do not hold a college degree. 

Gasp again! I never plan to. 

Yes, I'm a college drop-out and a self-educated woman. I am not ashamed of that. In fact, I am quite proud of where (with God's help) I have brought myself compared to where I began. And along with myself, all those without college degrees and those who are blue collar working Americans should be incensed at the disdain with which the democratic socialist left (both the media and the politicians they support) hold the hard working conservatives--the back bone of this country--of the United States.  

Enough said along those lines.

I am not voting for Donald Trump because I believe he is the lesser of two evils. I do not believe he is evil. I believe he is the best person for the job.

I am not voting for Donald Trump because I am ill-informed on the issues. I am more informed than your average Jane. 

I am not voting for Donald Trump because I am uneducated. I am well educated.

I am voting for Donald Trump because I believe he is the man of the hour for our country. I believe he is genuine and competent. I believe he will continue to surround himself with awesome advisors as he has done from the beginning. 

I believe he will bring jobs back to this country. That is so important. We need work. We need income. We need opportunities in order to be able to realize our dreams.

I believe he will do what it takes to keep the people of this country as safe as possible from terrorism.

I do not believe Donald Trump is a loose canon. No one builds the kind of business empire he has built by being unstable. No one raises the kinds of children he has raised by being an unstable or uncaring person. Both his business success and his accomplished children are testaments to his stability and compassion.

I do not believe Donald Trump is sexist--his business record in hiring and promoting women, along with being supportive of the mothers he employs, proves that. 

I am a woman who supports the Equal Rights Amendment, and I am confident that a President Trump will be good for women as well as for men. I am not a one-issue voter. I have three sons and three grandsons who need a bright future right along with their sisters and cousins--my five grand-daughters. 

I will not throw any of their futures under the bus by voting the "woman-ticket" in this or any other election. 

These are the reasons I am voting for Donald Trump (along with others on the ticket who will support his policies) in November.

Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Story behind the writing of Gender Slavery and the Evangelical Caste System

The story behind the writing of, Woman this is War! 

After, Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence, was published, I began to receive invitations for speaking engagements. This was exciting! The Christian community was signalling that they were ready and willing to deal with the sin and trauma of domestic violence in a proactive, compassionate, and biblical manner.

But in His own inimitable way, my Father in Heaven brought it to my attention that I was not yet ready to start jaunting all over the country speaking at domestic violence seminars hosted by churches. Although I did not yet understand the "why" of it, I did get the message, loud and clear, that if I began traveling, prematurely, to speaking engagements, I would be going "half-dressed," so to speak.
So, reluctantly, I cancelled events I had scheduled at mega-churches in places such as New York and California, and I began my journey into researching and writing what would became, Woman this is WAR!
Being raised in a Southern Baptist home, attending Southern Baptist Sunday Schools, and identifying as a Southern Baptist for 27 years of my life, It was difficult for me to accept that the Holy Spirit--who leads and guides into all truth--was leading me to challenge the status quo of traditional role religion, a status quo which had been ingrained into my psyche from birth. You see, my denomination did not endorse equality of the sexes, and never had as far as I knew. I remember arguing with God saying, "But Lord, that's their baby. If I touch that, they'll eat me alive! You will have to show me where to start. Weren't there any Baptist women who wrote about equality of the sexes?" 

I really did ask God that question. 
And the answers to that prayer began flowing in. I will never forget the thrill of discovering the writings of Sarah Grimke, a godly woman of the 19th century who was the first American woman to write a fully developed treatise on woman's equality. The peace her words brought to my woman's soul was a balm. I experienced outrage as well, at how both men and women had been foully cheated by the unjust limitations of role religion.
After reading Sarah Grimke's treatise, I found Shirley Taylor, That fearless Street Evangelist for Women, of Baptist Women for Equality, followed by Elizabeth Wilson, another 19th Century woman of God who spoke out against the societal and religious norm of female subordination. The list goes on, with many men standing up for women as well.

As my research and writing began to emerge in the form of a manuscript--with many footnotes to document and back up my findings (the book ended up having more than 400 footnotes)--I realized I was telling parallel stories of the American Woman's Rights movement which I found was  directly connected with the abolition of slavery. The two issues cannot be separated. And it is more than interesting that many of the same arguments were used to keep both women and slaves in subjection.

The religious significance of scripture being used to prove that God ordained both slavery and female subjection cannot be under-estimated. It is what gave power to the institution of slavery and to traditional role religion as well.
Enter complementarianism, what I call traditional-role-religion-on-steroids. Under the complementarian regime, women have lost ground, and abuse has increased. During my research, I was appalled to see that denominations that once ordained women as pastors, deacons, and elders, no longer did so. And it was tragic to see that an entire family counseling industry had sprung up within the Christian world in order to salvage hurting marriages that complementarian doctrine itself was causing!

I began to understood that the things I was learning were the missing parts of the puzzle as to why domestic violence is just as prevalent among Christians as anywhere else--perhaps even more so. Now I could accept speaking engagements again. Now I could run with my message "fully clothed." Now I could see the big picture. And that is what, Woman this is WAR! is all about, and how it came about.