Complementarianism: Extravagant Promises and Dire Threats


 Honor your father and mother which is the first commandment that includes a promise That it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth[1]
Ephesians 6:2-3

[1] It is notable that when YHWH 'Elohiym commanded children to obey their parents, he showed respect even for children by explaining the reason for it. He did not simply say, “You must obey because they are adults and you are children.” No, he said if you obey this command, there is a conditional promise of long life attached to it. Likewise, when the apostle, quoted the commandment, he highlighted the promise. Both 'Elohiym and the Apostle Paul, felt it worthwhile to explain to children the reason for obedience, yet some complementarian teachers would have us believe that Paul commanded full grown adult women to obey husbands blindly, with *no promise attached, only threats of dire consequences if they don’t. 

** Some complementarian leaders do make unscriptural extravagant promises of temporal and eternal bliss if wives subjugate themselves to husbands, but common sense reduces this hypothesis to nonsense.

Here is one example of unscriptural presumptuous complementarian promises, “A woman finds peace and shelter in the submission to her husband.” There is no hint of such thing in the Bible. Yet, this is a popular mantra among complementarians. 

The obedience of children to parents is temporary. Once they reach their majority, children are free from the command to obey parents. Not so with complementarian wives. Complementarian wives are commanded to obedience throughout their earthly lives and into eternity, where they are told their husbands will present them to Christ and answer for them at the judgement seat. 

This creates god-complexes in boys and men and husband-idolatry and irresponsibility on the part of complementarian wives, who believe they have a husband-mediator between them and God, when the Bible says there is only one mediator between God and humanity, and that is the man Christ Jesus.

This is an excerpt from The Hungry Hearts Bible Commentary edited by this author.


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